If she contacted you first that might be a red flag, but if you contacted her first, she might be trying to be cautious. Look for other signs. Not Helpful 9 Helpful If someone I met online is always spending money on me, and then asking me to send them money in return, could these be signs of a scam?
Scammers don't usually spend money on their victims, rather they demand money from their victims and it never stops. However, spending money on you and then turning around and asking for money could be a case of bait and switch to lower your guard, so be careful.
Ask why they need money so badly if they are spending it on you, as it'd just be easier if they kept that money for their own needs! Not Helpful 25 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Already answered Not a question Bad question Other. Tips Unfortunately, encountering online scammers is a very real possibility. Romance scams are the leading cause of lost money due to scams, and somewhere around 12 percent of people who use online dating have reported running into a scammer.
Refraining from answering this question or saying something snarky like "I work" will often dissuade them from pursuing your profile.
Searching for a person on job sites like LinkedIn may help you find the person or people on which a scammer is basing their profile. Certain speech patterns could indicate that they are a scammer. Poor English and nonsense words indicate that they probably aren't in the United States. Warnings Remember the Golden Rule of online interaction: Never give out your dating service account password.
Even employees of the dating service will not ask for your password. Do not accept packages or payments from potential scammers, as doing so may involve you in money laundering. Article Info This article was co-authored by our trained team of editors and researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Every time he phones, texts, he asks if I have come up with any solution because we are in this together. I too have had the lovely pleasure of such scam artists. Glad to hear you're being careful! He has a foreign accent, speaks broken English, and says his family is of German descent. His words hurt me so much. That is pretty strange, you're right. Apparently my absence caused her to hit me with a number of messages asking about it and demanded a prompt response.
FG Fred Gerrior 6 days ago. Stout Jun 6, I am currently playing along with a scammer who is pretending to be a beautiful woman who is very much in love with me. But had to go take care of mum in Africa. She says I'm so handsome I'm not and wants to see me in person and hear me. But her cell phone seems to be faulty and her old laptop doesn't have a built in camera.
She wants me to send money to buy one via her money transfer account. I told her I'm doing a background check. She keeps on trying. Really appreciated the tip about the Google Search image. It identified a man who said he was Roden Miller actually Jeffrey Miller as a scammer. He said he was a widower with a 14 year old son.
He is in the army stationed in Houston Texas but is currently on a peacekeeping mission in Libya but would be returning soon. He friend requested me on FaceBook. DB Dawn Burton Jun 17, I refuse to give my number or email and insist on staying on that site. I also enjoy toying with these scammers with elaborate stories of wealth, success, and loneliness.
This keeps them busy from victimizing another.
SA Sarah Anderson Sep 4, ST Suzanne Taylor Oct 19, Met a man, ages similar. He was well-educated and spoke with a beautiful French accent. Scammers are good at making you believe that you are the one. Probably gave out information that I shouldn't have. He got no money.
Claire Sep 7, TT Tracy Turner Aug 5, I didn't start asking the right questions until it was too late for me and my money. Please take the time to read this and also take the advice given very seriously on the dating sites. SA Stephen Austin May 17, Warning about using terms of endearment very early on in communication was also helpful. I'd like to add that scammers often send quite lengthy, detailed messages at first.
Phillips Feb 23, Also learned don't tell him you love him not before you meet him in person! JN Jackie No Sep 7, Sadly, I gave too much info and I believe out of three, two are fakes and likely the other guy I liked texts and talks at all hours supposedly when he was overseas? He had my telephone number but I didn't have his! PD Patricia Dickenson Jan 1, Things that have been said ring true! I just hope other ladies do not get trapped, it is as has been said: DO David Obrien May 18, Some first hand advice about a couple of sites.
I have proven it many times. Thankfully, I am smart, no money was exchanged. ML Mili Lee May 5, If they ask you for money, run. Most of the time, you can spot an online dating scammer by trusting your instincts—if something looks off, be extra wary. It all seems obvious in hindsight, but people want to believe in other people, and that can get in the way of our better judgment.
Always be on the lookout, and be extra wary when you meet new people online. Taking these precautions can help save you thousands of dollars—and even more heartbreak. Then you've come to the right place. One app that provides something of a safety net is a dating app that connects you with friends of your Facebook friends.
Have you been the victim of an online romance scam? Are the signs obvious in hindsight? What tipped you off to the scam? Share in the comments below! Online Dating , Online Fraud. Your email address will not be published. I live in Chile, South America. I was scammed in May this year, first on Facebook, later on Hangouts. There was someone using name and public image of British celebrity Elizabeth Hurley. The scammer said that needed money for a charity work in Nigeria.
At first I thought it was a good idea to help the cause, but later on this person became annoying, and asking for larger sums of money. But the joke is far from ending. Some days later, this person promised that it would redeem my money back, a thing that isn't happening yet. There was another person serving as a complice for the scammer, and then she told me to make additional payments to a person in Nigeria again.
I stopped throwing my savings away with these idiots, they took my money around USD and my patience. So, people, be careful of social media. Nigerian fraudsters use that intensively to get money from innocent and fragile people. The one scammer that I met, was sending me pictures of him and in one picture you could clearly see that he had a wedding band on. His wife was supposed to be a widow he had a child he was in the military overseas, the usual!
And I just continue talking to him. But I talked to him for quite a while and he said everything that I wanted to hear, you're beautiful intelligent This just happened right now and it refresh my memory of why I'm not supposed to really talk to people outside of the POF app. I did some research and these are all very common behaviors especially the being in some branch of the service. I have a feeling that I am getting scammed now.
The first time I started talking to this woman, she asked me for an iPhone 10xs max. I said I would send her one, but not going to, then she started asking for money to be sent to her.