He would always be the one to initiate the conversations and we went shopping, dinner, and the movies a couple of weeks ago and things seemed great. He even texted me how much fun he had. He just keeps saying he is scared to give me another chance and doesn't think that I will change.
But what's fair and ethical when it comes to dating when you're fresh off a “If you are not over your ex and you are dating someone new. Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if you're really over someone. “You're not ready to be in another relationship until you don't think about your ex can't stop thinking about your ex — but you're already dating someone new? . can't get enough of the little girl, even if she has changed their lives forever.
He would go back and forth every couple of weeks. An example, I was in Miami one weekend and he was constantly texting me and his friends telling us that he wanted to work it out. As soon as I told him if we are trying to work on each other then he would eventually have to find work somewhere else he flipped out saying I was trying to control him. He obviously still wants to be with this girl and is now using the excuse "I'm working on myself. I have not spoken to him in a week. I am just afraid that not talking to him is bringing him and the girl closer together.
Do I continue with the no contact and is this girl a rebound or not? He would think you aren't capable of change because you're still in relatively constant contact with him and just like it's hard to tell if someone lost weight if you saw them everyday, this works out to be the same - change can't be seen clearly if you see the person or talk to the person constantly. I suggest proceeding with NC to actually work on any issues you had to become an improved version of yourself first.
This girl could be a rebound but it really depends on the situation was he cheating all this while or only started dating her after the breakup. Honestly, in this situation, you might want to mentally prepare to walk away because if he can't even be honest towards you or his friends about this, you might find it hard to trust him on future occasions if you guys were to work things out.
I just think he's using the excuse I won't change because of the girl. Clearly if the girl wasn't in the picture we would be able to work on our relationship and you would think he would want to give me another chance because he did propose. I have not spoken to him in 2 weeks other then just saying merry christmas yesterday. I do not think he physically cheated while we were together but he did emotionally cheat. He was talking to her over the past year when I asked him not to and he would lie about it.
He apparently saw her in the summer with another coworker and I had no idea and her number was changed in his phone. He caught feelings for the girl and other then stepping back from the situation he kept going on with it. I had all his passwords so I could see what he was doing with the girl and that is how I caught him because he was lying to everyone about her.
Now I really don't know what is going on because I'm kind of starting to not care. I still want to keep up with the no contact and see how that goes. Hiii okay I need some advice So I dated my boyfriend for 3 years, we moved in together at the beginning of this year. We had a difficult relationship - I cheated once, he cheated a few times. We broke up for a week or so last year and then we got back together and decided to start fresh, no more cheating or anything we were gonna be serious. Then we moved in together a few months later. He has used this as leverage and an excuse to cheat throughout our relationship.
About a month ago he told me he cheated again - we broke up. For a week I had to live there and he was so cold, didn't talk to me or see me. He was plain rude. Then I moved out and he came running back, saying he regretted everything and he still loves me and wants to work it out. I went away on a trip for 3 days, when I came back he told me he doesn't know what he wants and he has met someone else who makes him really happy.
It's been a month and I have not talked to him since. So far, he has proceeded to delete me and all my friends on Facebook, but he's still making pointed posts like "it sucks when you give your all to someone and they don't do the same". This morning, I discovered he made a post on instagram with This new girl and captioned it "I have never been so happy, it keeps getting better and better with you".
He had been following me on instagram up until this morning - so he made a post and then unfollowed me. I don't necessarily know if I want to get back with him, he has really hurt me and I don't know if were right for each other. However I still really love him and im hurt that he possibly moved on so fast.
Does this sound like rebound behavior? If I decide I want to be with him and try to get him back, what steps should I take? Your advice is appreciated!! What you're describing sounds a lot like rebound behavior and isn't something you should be too worried about. If he could latch on and run back to you the moment you walked away, and yet latch onto someone new as easily when you're gone for a couple of days, it doesn't sound like it's a person you can feel secure with for a prolonged period.
That's just my opinion and if you genuinely want him back as opposed to moving on , it's something you need to be mentally prepared for. In the meantime, I would suggest applying No Contact and first focus on picking yourself up before deciding again what you should do. Hi Im Mary and i am quite confused of what this guy whom unfortunately I love so much wants. We are in a long distance relationship and he left me last September telling me that he cannot bear the distance anymore and that he needs a gf that is physically available.
It was the worst heartbreak I experienced in my whole life and it left me shattered. Even after the breakup we still communicate as he always wants to be friends. After a month I felt tired and all I know was that he finally found someone else. I didnt contact him for almost a month but now he is coming back to mylife again saying that he misses me still. Now i am confused if this guy is even worth loving for after all what he did or is he just trying to fool me around again knowing how much I loved him so hes taking an advantage?
It could be either reasons.
You know him better than anyone else. I would suggest that if he could walk away once over lack of physical contact, as long as nothing changes aka you moving to be with him or vice versa , it could easily happen a second time. Be fair to yourself and think this through on whether it's worth it. I broke up with my girlfriend in August, after dating for 7 months.
She pleaded to have me back shortly in September, and after thinking about it for awhile, I regretted it and wanted her back. It's normal that people seek comfort in others when they're upset, which is why rebounds exist in the first place. Right now she may be feeling conflicted as opposed to directly jumping into the rebound because you're still in the picture and on relatively good terms with her. If you're certain that you can make the relationship work and not go back into the same cycle as before, I don't think you should treat the guy as a rebound where you have to back off and not interfere but rather as fair competition where you're trying to win her heart once again.
Three months ago, my exboyfriend and I broke up.
We were together for a year in a long distance relationship. I don't even know who broke up with who. I was feeling unloved and I told him.
He just didn't seem like the type of guy to do that, especially since he would say I'd never do that to anyone since both of his exes cheated. In the meantime since this guy may be a rebound, simply focus on improving yourself and applying no contact for the time being. This is another time he gives her something expensive. Kelly Smith May 24, , I suggest applying the no contact rule in order to give yourself some distance from the situation and this might help you gain a fresh perspective. It is a torture to be waiting and thinking each day when will they eventually end. Yet she said that she still feels that way about me.
I thought we would try to work things out. However, he took it as if I was saying he was wrong or that it wasn't working. He said he was going to answer me but he didn't. After some texts and after time of not talking, he suddenly met someone else when he was travelling.
Everything between them went so fast. He wrote about having a soul connection and about true love in a few days after meeting each other. I saw their interaction through social media and I could see how fast everything has been moving between them with me everything went pretty slow and it took him forever to tell me he loved me and things like that. She is nothing like me, she is totally different both physically and in interests.
She is almost 20 years younger than him.